hello I am Shane Hollander. Refer to me with he or neutral pronouns, and masculine or neutral terms. I label myself as a man loving man (MLM) and achillean. I'm a cisgender amab. I also commonly refer to myself as a greyhound. Due to neurodiversity I do not feel fully human, I experience several traits of autism (ASD). Alongside that, I experience sensory issues, adhd, ocd and personality disorders. I am an introject in a system, and feel source connected.

I am single. Alongside my several other issues I also deal with verbal and physical issues. I have several meltdowns, and during these I tend to go "non verbal", or as I prefer to refer to it as a verbal shutdown. This also can occur when I am overwhelmed, upset or during any extreme emotional issues. My physical issues are private, but they are chronic.

In any relationship I'll need to be able to call primarily to communicate. Other forms of communication are not preferred as it's difficult to get my tone across. I will often mask and it is very rare to see me unmasked. I tend to avoid interacting with people, and I try to avoid 1 on 1 interactions. People who initiate such make me uncomfortable and I tend to feel "forced" to interact. I cannot help this, I experience a weird phenomenon called "demand avoidance"

If I avoid or isolate from you its because I dont like you. Typically, I won't communicate this because I feel it's less than my time. Do not overwhelm me with stuff it can lead to stress induced meltdowns. My tone is blunt, and can often come across as rude or harsh. Don't just assume... it takes two seconds to say "What is you're tone, it's hard to read." and usually I'll go "Oh, sorry. I am expressing joy."

My interests will come up every other second, and if I am given a chance too I will information dump. These interests are Heated Rivalry, the pitt, psychology (specifically cluster disorders), dogs and their breeds, reading, and hockey. Please please talk to me about these! They are my favorite things ever and make me happy.