plural etiquette for the timelosts:
What do you go by collectively? - lyn/mal, they/them
How should people refer to you? - we prefer to be referred to as singulars rather than as multiple, but either is fine
What terms do you prefer for referring to yourselves as individuals - headmates - or as a group? - system, collective names, or system names.
Who in your system are people most likely to interact with?
(in order)
- cassius (me) - host - he/him
- anji - frq front - she/pix/shrill
- ness - host - he/they
- ada - co-host - she/her
Will people be interacting with any child members? - no children but many teenagers
Are there any system members who are nonverbal or otherwise have difficulty communicating? not that i'm aware of
What should people do if they don't know who's at front? - ask, if they're willing to share they'll tell you
Is it okay for people to ask if they can talk to someone who isn't at front at the moment? - depends on the headmate - some are okay with it, others aren't, it's best to just ask
If someone talks to one of you, will other system members be aware of the conversation? - sometimes- between certain headmates there's lower amnesia barriers so we can remember things between us, but not others - Will they be actively watching, or just able to remember it later? - just able to remember usually, but hosts/co-hosts may be watching
...if multiple system members will be aware of a conversation, will they want to chime in? - very frequently, though switches of this manner are usually covert - If someone wants to speak to a system member one-on-one, what expectations can they have and how should they communicate this? - in general, don't expect it. myself and the other hosts have very low amnesia so it's really going to be between all three of us.
How out are you? - not - ...do you have a “singletsona” name and pronouns they should use - if we're out as Not Cis, mal and they/them works fine. if not, lydia and she/her ^__^ - can they talk about knowing someone who's plural in nonspecific terms, without naming you - we would rather you not
Do you have any internal communication difficulties, memory issues, switch triggers, etc that others should be mindful of? - the current hosts can't communicate between front & back sys, and other front sys alters who aren't hosts/co-hosts still have trouble with it, so if back system alters are fronting we usually will not remember at all. certain words/sounds act as triggers for us though we're usually not willing to share that upfront.
Your stance on being asked questions? - fine as long as you're not asking what caused our system to form. we're traumagenic and that's the most answer you'll get